Emotional balance is essential to healthy, personal and social adjustments because children must learn to handle all emotions not just pleasant ones. Since the child spends a large amount of his/her time in school, it is essential that his/her experience there should lead him/her to achieve the necessary emotional balance and control. If school programs and relations with peers and teachers are pleasant and suited to him/her, he/she will derive joy from his/her achievements and looks forward with pleasure to stimulating tasks that lie ahead. On the other hand, negative experiences cannot be totally avoided. Some points should be kept in mind by parents as well as teachers in trying to help the child on his/her way to emotional maturity.
- Emotions can be acquired. Therefore, the child can be helped to develop positive emotions towards the school as well as towards the country by involving him/her in activities and programs that will encourage a sense of belonging and pride and attachment.
- Sometimes, a child can be affected negatively by a particular stimulus and may display emotions such as fear and anger towards that stimulus. In such a case the child should be withdrawn from the presence of that stimulus or the stimulus condition can be changed.
- Since negative emotions are learned through conditioning and imitation, the same can be un-learned through use of conditioning and modeling techniques.
- Irrational emotional behavior on the part of the child can be overcome through patient counseling and if he/she is helped to understand his/her own reactions towards the stimulus or event or person that aroused such behavior.
- Unpleasant emotions cannot always be avoided. Therefore, the aim should be for emotional tolerance, the ability to withstand both pleasant and unpleasant emotions.
- Children should be helped and advised to control their emotions and to express them in socially approved ways.
- An emotionally disturbed child will often manifest it through destructive and attention getting behavior in class. The teacher has to keep a look out for such traits and then attend promptly to it, either through counseling the student or sometimes taking the help and co-operation of the parents. In extreme cases the child can be referred to a psychologist or even a psychiatrist or a guidance worker.
- The school should organize the school program, both academic and co-curricular to provide for both experiences of success and failure, competition, co-operation, rivalry, sense of belonging, healthy interaction between students and teachers and healthy involvement with social programs. This will encourage and help the child in his/her path towards achieving healthy emotional development and control.